The Art of Conversation
Posted March 14, 2011
on:- In: HR | Recruitment
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Just sometimes though, I receive a call that just amazes and astounds me and temporarily makes me feel very cross. This morning was one of those times.
I picked up the phone when it rang and greeted the caller, only to be met with a silence and loud music blaring in the background…so loud that I can tell you exactly which Girls Aloud song it was…and believe me, I’m no expert. After at least 5 seconds of ‘blare’, and just before I was about to put the phone, the conversation finally started and proceeded along the following lines:
Me: Hello?
RC: Oh….hello!….is that Alison?
Me: Yes
RC: Oh great, I’m Susie* from RecruitYouLike*….blah blah blah sales pitch…I’ve just joined the team and I’m phoning you to introduce myself
Me: You’ve already rung me to introduce yourself – we spoke last week
RC: No, no I’ve just joined the team, previously you dealt with Jason* I’m just phoning to introduce myself
Me: I spoke to you last week, you have already introduced yourself
RC: Oh…I sent an email…
Me: Yes and you also rang and we had this conversation
RC: Well, I sent the email and I wanted to check it had arrived, because….
Me: It did. Goodbye.
So, I don’t mean to be overly harsh, but this type of conversation is just so damaging to the reputation of recruitment agents in general and their relationship with clients. I am busy and am really not interested. I wasn’t really interested the first time she called, although I was polite and finished the conversation quickly. But the same conversation twice in a week? Please! The irony is that this company have been on our preferred suppliers list. It speaks volumes for the lack of authenticity, training, standards and general competence to be making such a mistake. And had she admitted her mistake and apologised straight off, I would have been far less irritated.
The art of conversation is not difficult…it starts with knowing who you are speaking to, having a bit of empathy and being authentic. Is that so much to ask??!
* not their real names!
15 Responses to "The Art of Conversation"

The lesson here is own up to your mistake, I made two hashed calls this afternoon because my notes were wrong (within the space of 2 minutes- due to the notes).
Realised my mistake, apologised, had a laugh with the people concerned and moved on.
One of the best bits of advice I ever had was “If you screw up, own up” Clients and colleagues will respect you much more.
So whilst this was very annoying for you, I have a certain amount of sympathy for the person who called- not excusing it but I know how it can be done. Hopefully this person has learnt their lesson and will move forward and not make the same mistake.


I’m very glad you wrote this Alison, it shows very clearly what recruitment agencies & many business to business sales agents are doing, and they’re doing it very wrong!
The power of branding is very important in growing a business, but how does a brand develop? Through the experiences one has with the brand.
I tweeted earlier today the fact that every employee is a brand ambassador, of course I was inferring when people were outside of work. To have someone officially representing a company, and not even remembering the conversation they’d had with a prospective/actual client. Really does not leave a positive impression of the brand.
The “make a hundred calls you might get one sale” approach is flawed, deeply. It creates many experiences just like the one you describe. These type of experiences given to potential customers by the brand do not produce business results. Or rather they do- the results it produces are: mistrust, dislike and a lack of respect. These are qualities that are going to be talked about.
While I respect your decision not to publicly name this particular recruitment agency, I do whole heartedly agree with your first commenter- send their manager a link to this blog post. This is positive feedback, an essential element of “engagement” which I discussed on Gary’s blog the last few days. http://bit.ly/hkDMWA
By expressing what is not palatable, what is not useful, it will encourage & stimulate discussion in the industry, and who knows, even eventually might result in real change that would both benefit the recruitment agencies & the companies that would like to use their services.
In summary, by writing this blog post, you’re doing them a favour, IF they’re paying attention.
I look forward to seeing how the recruitment industry evolves over the next few years, I am talking to some innovative people at the moment about their vision for new methods of recruitment, and it’s exciting!


Having read the comments since mine, I’m inclined to ask what methods would you prefer?
There is no doubt that, the ‘throw enough mud and eventually some will stick’ method is not always a long term sustainable method on its own- but when you’re in a sales environment, fresh in or as a new business how else do you get your name known?
As for KPI’s in the right hands they are effective- the question is what KPI’s are they beating their consultants around the head with? If its how many calls you made then that would explain this situation. There are other more effective KPI’s that can be used to measure and provide more effective results.
Admittedly, there appears to be a lack of training in this example and commercial nouce on behalf of the consultant.
Cold Calls, knocking on doors will never go away, we don’t all like it but it clearly works otherwise it couldn’t exist as a process.
With this example and the one James wrote about in his blog, I wouldn’t blame the method of contact but the distinct lack of training or attention to detail by the consultants.


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March 14, 2011 at 3:25 pm
Hi A
You should name and shame or at least send them a link to your blog – so that they can see how utterly unprofessional it is. I am sure I am not the first and wont be the last to agree with you.
Go on get them to face up to what they are doing
March 14, 2011 at 9:47 pm
Hi Beth
I worry slightly that this will lead to the person concerned being sacked or harshly disciplined, rather than the company as a whole changing their approach.
Thank you for commenting – I will remember not ot mess with you or James on this one!! 😉