The HR Juggler

Day 14: Breakthrough

Posted on: December 14, 2011

 
Today’s blog post is rather a treat, not least because the lovely Emma (@onatrainagain) is an experienced, talented writer who is currently taking time out from her own very fabulous blog. It has been my pleasure to meet Emma in person during 2011 and she is huge fun to interact with, both online and via Twitter.  I have certainly benefited from at least one of her breakthroughs this year!
 
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Thanks very much to Alison for asking me to write a guest blog for her themed advent calendar this year. I have been known to have my own blog but due to work and study commitments, this is currently gathering dust while I focus my attention elsewhere. I’m sure normal service will resume again next summer, but until then, I shall make the most of being given the opportunity to pen guest blogs whenever I am privileged enough to be asked.

I try very much not to get fixated on the end of one year and the start of another. After years of having resolutions and failing most of them, I have quickly learnt that a fear of failure leads me to avoid them in the first place. This is an obstacle in some ways but in others it actually provides me with the focus that I need in order to work out what I want to achieve and how I will do it. Because it’s not a New Year whim, I find that I am more likely to be successful. I avoid making changes on 1 January because I don’t ‘get’ the concept of it but I can easily see why it might be a good driver for others. All it does for me is bring back the cringe worthy moments as a child singing Auld Lang Syne with my drunk relatives (yes, that really was as bad as it sounds).

Because I am studying at the moment, during the past 18 months I have very much focused on my own personal development. This has been quite difficult at times because I felt like I’d lost my mo-jo. The only issue for me was that getting my mo-jo back wasn’t as simple as when Dr Evil stole Austin Powers’ and it being later retrieved from a test tube.

During the course of the year I have had two major breakthroughs and although they may seem quite trivial to some, they are actually massive achievements for little old me.

First up is my overwhelming fear of networking. For years I have avoided any networking like the plague. This is for a number of reasons but top of my list was that I thought people wouldn’t like me, plain and simple. My line manager has spent a lot of time trying to convince me that when you turn up at networking events, people will rarely turn their back on you and/or deliberately not talk to you. It’s irrational when I think back to earlier this year when I was brave enough to grace the Connecting HR unconference with my presence. I still remember how I felt now. The nerves didn’t hit me until I was on the train there, at which point I felt so unwell that I thought of just getting the next train home. However, the attendees couldn’t have made me feel more welcome and although it hasn’t completely cured my daftness, I won’t be quite so reluctant next time to attend such an event.

Secondly, I have addressed a deep-seated internal habit of trying to be perfect – constantly. When I say that out loud, I wonder how on earth I didn’t send myself into an early grave just trying to keep it up. After a mini melt-down in the spring, I took some time to reflect and realised that by expecting perfect, I would never achieve it. I don’t think perfect exists and before now I have not been able to work that one out. Okay, I am a bit slow but at least I finally got there. For now, I am trying to be more content with being ‘good’ or ‘very good’. Sad but true, though I’m sure I’m not alone.

So, whilst these things may not be huge, or you may take them for granted, I have made two very big changes in my life. For that I am grateful as now I feel like I’ve taken some large steps towards meeting some of my personal goals.

On a final note, I would like to wish you all a wonderful time over the festive period. I have lots of university work to get through and won’t be partying, so please raise a glass for me and keep your fingers crossed that in May I pass this year and FINALLY I will be fully CIPD qualified. That’ll be another goal to cross off my very long list :).

5 Responses to "Day 14: Breakthrough"

Splendid post Emma!

I remember your smile from ConnectingHR. Knowing how brave you were to come along is probably why you and your smile made such a mark.

Perfect is overrated 🙂 I like to do things well, and for sure there are times when I polish and craft something to try and get it just right. And life is short, so there are times when GEMO works just fine. GEMO? Good Enough, Move On. Courtesy of my friend David Zinger.

And I’d love for you to write a guest post over at my place – I’ll drop you a line and if you’d like, you can write something whenever you like about whatever you like.

Cheers – Doug

Hey Emma,

What a wonderful post, as always, you let us into your life, heart and soul for which I thank you and I wish I was as brave as you!

You’re a wonderful person so please believe in it and be good to yourself!

Happy Christmas and a Very Happy and Prosperous New Year xxxx

Emma, what a powerful post. Thanks for sharing this with us. I love what Bina says too on how you share your life, heart and soul – spot on! I think the two breakthroughs you have made ARE HUGE. It’s right there to feel in your words, in the story that you so powerfully share with us. Thank you. Loved reading every word. Feeling very inspired by you : )

Honest, personal and a shining example to all of us to be brave and to know that “good enough is good enough” for most things in life. I have so enjoyed getting to know you, a little, through twitter and look forward to greeting you in person at a tweet up or unconference. I know how focused you are on your studies but I will still keep my fingers crossed until May.

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